"The Value
of Self Evaluation in Goal Setting"
The first part of
any worth while goals program has to identify where you currently are in
life. It has always amazed me how many people have no idea; have never
taken an inventory; or have even thought this a concern. They set random
goals written and unwritten, have successes and failures at almost an equal
rate with no reason as to why. Research (for the serious scholars out
there I will not be foot-noting - too old, too tired) has shown that most
people set their goals too low or too high because they have no idea where they
are. The ones set too low are easy to accomplish as they require no
effort; and those too high are so difficult and out of the persons reach that
they give up. Goals are intended to make one stretch, not break. To
grow, improve, accelerate in the talents and abilities discussed in earlier
parts. So the question then becomes how does one figure out where
they are on the continuum of their life. Lets see if a couple of the
ideas below will assist.
First
self-evaluation requires by its very nature privacy. Who we are and where
we are is not something to be shown to anyone. Why? Because if we
know someone else is going to look at what we've discovered, we'll lie.
In the thousands of interviews I've held in business it has been my experience
if I ask anyone to list the ten things they most want to accomplish in life the
following takes place: men will say what they think I want to hear until
we get to numbers 6 or 7, and then tell the truth; women will be honest in the
first 3 or 4 and then stop, reflect and say what they think I want to hear for
the rest. The same is true in self evaluation, except in the rare
exception. (Being you are all my friends - you can be all the rare
exceptions.) But please when you do this keep it to yourself.
You'll feel better and so will others. (Later when I get into
personality's and other studies these you will do with spouse's, etc.)
The first step in
self-evaluation is to take six separate pieces of blank paper. On each
page you will label them: 1) Physical; 2) Family; 3) Spiritual/Ethical; 4)
Social; 5) Financial; 6) Mental. On the front the side put the label
"Tangible" and on the back side "Intangible." Now
comes the difficult part; write an essay of who and where you are tangibly and
intangibly on each page. You cannot use more than one side of the paper
for each essay. Be honest and forthright with what you write. There
are many books and programs with a multitude of self-evaluation
questionnaires (these will help you address your self essay). On the one
side you address your tangible self; on the other your intangible self.
The second step is to step
back and re-read what you have written and say is that really me (don't have a
gun or knife handy - smile). If it is then you take out six more pieces
of paper (you thought this was easy right), and put the headers on the same
way. Then list all of the things that you would like to work on in the
six areas of your life, both tangible and intangible. This will lead us
into the next three parts of the fourteen steps of goal setting; Lists,
Categorize and Prioritize.
Remember you have to know who
you are and where you are in self development. There are many ways
to do this, but this is easy and also if someone finds it, most people don't
like to read essays. So it will be yours. May you have an interesting
time doing this. If you have questions please feel free to write and
ask.
the Old Rusty Knight
“Where oh Where Am I”
cji
12/29/17
Sadly
as often too few know
where
they are or should be
without
this clue they’re lost
pretending
to perfectly sure
they
know all and tell all
therefore
self-evaluation
your
personal GPS needful
knowing
where you are always
having
a solid starting point
a firm
direction to follow
which
sadly too few a clue
where
they are or going!
Copyright © 2017 – cji
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